Questions for desperate women!

[Seafarer58]

As your need to go to the toilet increases, from 'negligible' upwards, is there a point you reach when you realize that you really want to go very badly, and it becomes the most urgent matter to deal with from then on? How do you recognise that stage, when you want to leave everything else aside and get to a toilet?

[Anonymous]

In reply to the question, for me, it's quite a sudden switch from 'use next loo I find' to 'find a loo NOW'. As I realise I'm in desperate trouble (when trapped without any hope of getting relief) I feel my colour come up, my heart starts beating fast and I can't prevent anyone around me from knowing I'm in a bit of trouble. When there's only men around, it's just so embarrassing!

Hope that helps!

[Captain Pants]

I'de love to see you get desperate Penny, you sound like just the sort of woman who's desperation is a real turn on.

Cap'n P :wink:

[Anonymous]

I'm with the captain,
Penny you sound just perfect!!

[Seafarer58]

Thanks, Penny! That's what I meant. I suppose for some women it's a more gradual process?

[Anonymous]

Well I see a few men saw what I wrote about how the realisation that I'm in a fix hits me. Every time as just as if I have suddenly been told something shocking or had a scare, well in a way it is a scare I suppose. It's really awful when I'm with someone and they see me go bright red. My mother told me she could read me like a book, knowing that when I flushed red she had better find me a loo quickly. I'm now a, well, shall we say, not such a young girl any more, but I wonder what others that don't know me too well think when I reach that certain point in their company. A few of my ladyfriends know what the signals I involentarily give out really mean (I have confessed to the reason) but others might just draw their own conclusions for when I'm in that state, I can't bring myself to letting it be known I'm bursting. I'll find myself saying things like "I'm fine, just a little hot" or some other nonsense. I'm then praying that someone else I'm with will sooner or later (preferably much sooner) ask for a toilet break.

It sounds silly, and long before I get desperate, I say to myself that there's no big deal - I'll just mention that I could use a loo, but the closer I get to desperate the harder it is to tell anyone.

I have also to admit that amidst the acute embarrassment and beating heart there's a real thrill. Possibly the thrill of danger, I don't know, but it's a real factor. It depends on the circumstances and the company I'm with as to how much I enjoy or dread the feeling. When I'm out with the girls and having had a few drinks, someone mentions their need to wee, I can really enjoy the build-up sensation but if I'm trapped on a bus or in a car (especially when I'm in male company) it's pure hell.

There, now you know what it's like from a ladies viewpoint.

[Captain Pants]

What a fantastic account Penny :D I can honestly understand your fear in that sort of situation. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think you are unlike a lot of other women, when knowing that they need to pee very badly :oops: but wanting to keep their decorum and integrity intact.

For me I always find a mysterious woman more exciting, especially when in her company I may have an incling that something is wrong (and it could be that her bladder is about to burst) but she won't tell me, and I can't really ask, for I know that she won't tell me. Well, perhaps she might say after things begin to get out of hand, but will do it in a very ladylike and controlled fashion. If she then gets to "red alert" - that's when the excitement for me begins! She has reached the end of the road, she can no longer compose herself, and keep her dignity, she has to pee and now!!

I love the fact that you "get a bit hot" and that being in a mans company makes it worse, the fact that a MAN might find out that you actually go to the toilet, and need it badly scares you rigid....whew!!

Keep posting Pen, I look forward to more of your accounts :D

Cap n' P x

[Seafarer58]

Yes Penny, the way you respond is what turns me on too!

How about getting online here when you're bursting?!

[Penny]

I don't know whether to be flattered or embarrassed at how you find my very revealing essay on how it is for me at those awkward times when a girl just wishes she was a man (for the ease with which they can relieve themselves when they have to). Having said that, there's one friend of mine (a young and rather shy man) who would die of embarrassment if he was ever in my company, traveling for example, and in need of relief. Others I have known would just unzip and go, almost anywhere, without a thought for how I might feel.

An ideal traveling companion might seek suitable facilities at intervals on thier own behalf so the ladies might discreetly attend to matters without having to actually mention thier own toiletry needs.

I often wonder how the Victorian ladies coped. In their time there were practically no public toilets for the ladies. Not that they would have been too keen (or indeed able) to use them even if they did exist. The closest I came to appreciating their plight was one evening when I was dressed in a ball gown and tried to use the ladies. The cubicles are far to small to accommodate ladies in 'posh frocks'. My respect for the ladies of years gone by knows no bounds!

To conclude this message tonight, I see that Seafearer suggests I post a reply when bursting, well I try to arrange that sometime although I don't know what I would want to say at a time like that. I would probably be all quiet and in denial-mode so I'm not sure it would be very informative. I did join a chat room recently but the conversation was a bit dull and as m need to terminate the session increated (for reasons you might guess), my mind just couldn't take in the conversation so I think the guy might have thought I was a a bit of a dull old thing!

Regarding the invitations to come here often, I think I will actually. Talking about my views on this delicate topic has been fun so far, so I expect I'll be a regular hereabouts henceforth.

Regards to you all!

Penny

[Seafarer58]

Hi Penny,

Nice to know you'll visit here regularly!

As for what to say online when you're bursting to pee - just mention how badly you need to 'go', what you're doing to hold it in, what you're wearing (basically the general situation you're in, so that others can picture you). I think I'm correct in saying that, for most of us, that's what is exciting - sharing in the moment.

[Captain Pants]

Glad to hear you are going to post here often, we all love your posts, please don't be embarassed... :oops:

It would be nice if you could try and post something about how you are feeling when you need to "powder your nose" - the beauty is that you can say as little or as much as you like, and in the knowledge that you are amongst friends :D

"Yesshh me-Lady!"

Cap'n P
x

[Penny]

Such kind and supportive words from you all. I suppose it might be fun to have an extra cup of coffee and then sit myself down at my keyboard and wait until nature starts calling. Not that there's anything new in that of course, I'm sometimes squrming in my seat as I strive to finish off some piece of work or whatever before paying a call but what you are proposing is TELLING SOMEONE that I'm needing a toilet break. That sounds like the hard part!

I'll try and create a post or two on Sunday evening (30th nov), probably around this time (half past nine GMT). I'm going to a friends house for tea so I'll drink an extra cup or two so perhaps by the time I'm on-line I'll have quite a bit to contend with. I would normally chance into something comfortable in an evening but I'll remain in my finery for the evening since I enjoy needing to go most when I'm smartly dressed.

I'll create a new thread or topic or whatever it's called and I'll name it "Penny's confessions" but don't expect anything too revealing, already I'm getting scared about what I'm supposed to say. You might be very disappointed, who knows!

[Anonymous]

Me again :roll: .

I look forward very much to your post on Sunday, I will picture you with your nice clothes on.

Just say whatever you feel like saying Penny, perhaps describe what you are wearing etc and go with the flow....mmmm :D

Cap'n P

[Seafarer58]

Penny,

Another point on which I see 'eye-to-eye' with you! I too find it more of a turn-on when the lady in question, who needs to 'do something ugently', is smartly dressed.

Only thing is, your Sunday evening is early Monday morning for me, and I have to get to work, so I won't be online - but I'll read it later!

Seafarer

[Anonymous]

I am a little late to this thread but am very interested. Your reactions are similar to most women that have posted here both with the "sudden desperation" and pee shyness around men.
Could you write a brief dairy of this. Something like
on a normal day when I am drinking my normal amount.
Noon - Pee
1:30 pm little urge. If I pee now it would last about 10 seconds
2:00 Noticable urge but able to function normally
2:04 have to go bad if I am with girlfriends I would pee and it would last. about 30 seconds
2:07 If in car full of men I would be turning red
2:33 Forced to pull over car or wet myself. Pee for 40 seconds and they can hear it in the next town.
These are general guidelines your times may be very different as well as your descriptions of your urges reactions etc.

I have a theory that for people with "cast iron bladders" the urge comes on gradually.l