"Coming Out"

[bspider]

OK, this was an 'interesting' weekend.

I've been feeling more open recently, and I've been wanting to 'come out' to my wife for a looong time. This weekend, it happened.

Words like "wierd" and "strange" and "need help" were uttered. I've been mostly very calm, but inside I'm very, very shaky. I have a horrible feeling that the key word is really "denial", and that sometime tonight I'm going to cop a load of grief...please wish me luck!

But: we finished last night with some great non-wet (well, wet in a different way ;)) sex. Which is why I missed Gilly last night.... well that plus I'm not sure Mrs Boris is quite ready for that.... ;) She did did say something about would I like her to pee on me at one point though! :shock: :!: :)

Boris.

[Ooze]

All the best Boris for your passing out ceremony. Do tell us what happens. I remember my coming out as a traumatic experience before and a relieving (heh) experience after.

Ooze

[bloom061604]

Well, Boris, as a lifelong bachelor, I've never had to face such a situation, and I'm certainly not qualified to give advice. My own fetish went dormant for about 40 years. It was revived when I stumbled upon wetting sites on the Internet. I immediately shared my discovery with my girlfriend at the time. We were curious about it, experimented with it, and found it added a new dimension to our sex life. It seems to me that in your case you've revealed a truth about yourself that was always there, it changes nothing about the way you are, and nothing about your marriage needs to change unless you or your wife want it to. But that's probably over-simplifying it. Good luck.

—Bloom

[Estelle]

I admire your courage, Boris. I really do hope that something good will come of it. Coming out (about anything sexual) is always hard in our society. But, then, living in the closet just gets so hard too............

All the best -and let us know how you get on.

Estelle

[Indigo]

Best wishes from me too, Boris.

You're a braver man than I shall ever be.

[DavidEngland99]

Boris,

I hope all goes well - I have never told my SO. It sounds as though things started reasonably well. I would definitely not mention Sky's webcasts and stuff - most women get scared if they realise you have been ogling other, possibly better looking women!

David

[BigJake]

I guess I was lucky when my girlie asked me first and has no problems with my interests. I think she is more anxious to pursue things than I am...I'm just too shy to go that extra step. Plus, I like to take things slow (it took her a while to get a 1st kiss outa me!). Anyway, I'm glad to hear you 'came out'...a relationship does not thrive on secrets. Honesty is important and I am sure that in the long run your revelation will pay off immensely! Good luck friend, I am happy for you and the misses.

[bspider]

Thanks all for the good wishes...

Well, still married! :D

Some people have been calling me brave...it was a spur of the moment thing, If I'd thought about it any more I'd have chickened out. So I stopped thinking and started talking instead. :claphigh:

I'm not sure if the full import has occurred to Mrs Boris yet. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop...but in the meantime the 'vanilla' sex is wonderful - I actually feel sore! :shock:

David: I've told my wife about this forum, and it was one of the more incendiary items - so I dread to think about a webcam. But I have every intention of pushing through with this now that I've started, and hope - one day - to watch a webcam with her. Just (again) wish me :gl:

Boris.

[Ooze]

Well try a regular cocktail to lubricate the issue before the Molotov cocktail.

(couldn't get more innuendo in one sentence even if I tried)

[DavidEngland99]

Boris,

If you want to show her the webcam, take my advice and wait a bit. She has enough to think about at the moment. For that matter, if all goes well - I mean really well - what do you need to view a webcam for! (Sorry Sky!)

David

[bspider]

Oh, I fully agree David - in all ways... :drool: :p

Boris.

[GregSmith85]

lol!

Best wishes old man ;)

[bspider]

Wow, a fantastic night.

I'm not going to go into detail, as one day I want Mrs. Boris to join in our little community here, but suffice it to say wet fun was had.... :D :claphigh:

Boris.

[DavidEngland99]

Boris,

Congratulations - what a super way to 'come out':drool:

David